Thursday, 27 May 2010

My Mum - 09/05/1942 - 23/05/2010

My beautiful mum passed away at 8.30pm on Sunday, 23rd May. No-one could have asked for a better mum, she was such a beautiful person, inside and out. She was always there for me, even when she had her own problems. I'll always remember taking her shopping every week, she would be whizzing around on her scooter. One time really sticks in my mind, she went off on her own, then we met up an hour later, and I noticed a bra and knicker set attached to the back of the scooter. It had attached itself to her in the first shop she had been in, so she had unknowingly gone round all the shops with the underwear hanging off the back of the scooter for all to see.
We had so many tears and laughter together. She was always in pain because of her MS, but very rarely complained. She was there for me when I was diagnosed with lupus, and cried with me. She cried more for my pain, than her own.
One of my mum's proudest moments was being the first person to hold my daughter when I gave birth by ceasarean in 1991.
Eventually she was confined to a wheelchair, and gradually lost the use of her left arm as well as her legs. On April 17th my mum was admitted to hospital with multiple infections and severe dehydration. The doctors in A&E fought to save her. They were fantastic, and managed to give her another few weeks. The time she was in hospital was a real rollercoaster, she'd be really ill one minute, then giggling with us the next. She battled urine infections and pneumonia, then finally came home on Monday 17th May. We had a hospital bed set up for her in the front room so we could be with her at all times. The infections kept coming though, and mum finally gave up fighting on Sunday, 23rd May.
I haven't really taken it all in yet, it's all so surreal. We've been so busy with all the arrangements, that we haven't had time to think too much. Mum's funeral is on Wednesday, 2nd June, which would have been her's and my dad's 48th Wedding Anniversary.
Thanks so much to everyone for the lovely messages I've received over the last few weeks, it's meant a lot to me. Maybe my blog isn't the right place to put this, but my mum was such a large part of my life, that I wanted to do a tribute to her.

R.I.P. Mum, I love you so much. xxx


Debs said...

Oh Julie
I am so very saddened to read of your news. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
I think this is a lovely tribute to your mum.
Take care and God bless hun.
Debs xx

Farm Girl said...

Oh Julie.....My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your mum sounds like such an inspirational person- if only the world was full of more people like her.

Thinking of you
Kate (farm girl)

Fliss said...

Julie, I'm so sorry and saddened to hear about your dear Mum. My heart goes out to you and your family and I'm thinking of you at this very difficult time.
Sending hugs, Fliss xx


Hi Julie
My thoughts are with you and your family so sorry to hear about your mum she sounded like a very nice lady,
Hugs Dianne xx

Cheryl said...

oh hun your mum sounds,like the most kindest,loveing person,and it really shows in the picture too gosh I am in tears here as she looks so much like my dear nan who passed away,my thoughts and prayers are with you hun ,try to take comfort from the lovely times,you spent together,love hugs cheryl xxxxx

Tracy said...

I'm sure your Mum would be filled with pride at this lovely tribute, you've done her proud. Your in my thoughts and please take care.
Tracy x

Stamperlou said...

Dear Julie,
I read your blog regularly & just wanted to offer you my sincere condolences on your sad loss. You wrote that no one could have had a better Mum, but it sounds as if no one could have had a better daughter too.
Warm regards

Suzi said...

What a lovely tribute to your dear Mum Julie. My deepest sympathy to you and the family. You have lots of lovely memories to keep you going through this sad time.
Hugs n Love
Suzi x

Dora said...

Dear Julie, my deepest sympathy for your great loss xxxx

mckinkle said...

Im so sorry to read of your massive loss.

My deepest sympathies to you.


Karen said...

Awww Julie, this is lovely it brought a lump to my throat. It's a lovely picture of you mam, and thanks for sharing that.
You have lots of happy memories, which as Suzi said, will keep you going through this sad time. You will get there Julie, I promise you.

You've been in my thoughts for a while now, since you mam went into hospital, and you'll stay there for a while longer too.

Sending you lots of hugs to help you through the coming days.

Karen xx

Louise said...

Dear Julie,
Such a lovely tribute to your Mum and you are brave for posting it. It sounds like she was a fantastic woman.
My thoughts are with you and I hope over the coming weeks you can start to remember all of the good times you spend together.
hugs Louise x

My name is Wynneth said...

Julie, my heart goes out to you at this so sad time. I know exactly what you are going through, I was going through this myself just over 18 months ago. It has been wonderful to read your tribute to your Mom on here, thank you for sharing. You will survive, as will all the wonderful memories of your Mom and the great times you had with her, just hang on in there. Sending love and prayers to you and I will be thinking of you especially on wednesday.

Croms' Cubby Hole said...

Not much more ~I can add except to say that my heart goes out to you and your family at this time. Your mum certainly sounds like a marvellous person to have had around. I think also your mum would be so proud that you have featured her on your blog with such a touching tribute.
Helen xx

Lou said...


A lovely tribute to your mum and I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Remember the good times, and remember that she will always be with you, no matter what xx

Lou x

WeirdCat said...

I hope the funeral went well, or as well as any funeral can go,she was obviously a wonderful lady, a great story about the bra and pants! Thinking of you and your family, time is a great healer, the hurt will never truly go away but you will learn to deal with it in your own way. Hugs
Ruth x

Kathyk said...

I lost my own mum eight years ago in July and this brought tears to my own eyes, I know you are hurting right now but the pain will recede and you WILL have the happiest memories.
Take care

Nightowl said...

Hi Julie, My deepest sympathy to you and your family at this time.
I think this is a lovely tribute to your wonderful mum and your blog is a perfect place to share what's in your heart.
Take care and God bless hun.
Your in my prayers.

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